i know that closeness in a relationship really matters to some people - be it family relationship or relationship between friends etc. but can we actually retain the closeness that we might once feel forever? It is not impossible in real life, but i would say that it is rather difficult. Through my experience, it is almost impossible and i have decided not to be bothered and weep over it.
My life keeps moving on from a phase to another. I believe nobody would have experienced the same phase of life until his last breath. Of course, this will bring changes to your life and the people around you will not be the same people that you used to meet everyday.
For one long period, you might be clinging to a group of friends and you would have grown fond of them and at that point of time, you would feel like there were nothing that could tear you apart and this is the time when the phrase "Friends Forever" became some sort of a chain that links you together. Hugging, teasing each other, giving advice, sharing problems, talking about love crushes and hanging out became part and parcel of your friendship which created the closeness among you and your friends.
But then, life never stayed as it was and started to change and it built a growing distance which brought you apart from the ones whom you once cheerfully called friends, snatching away the closeness. And in your current phase of life, strangers are becoming your new friend and your friends are becoming more or less like strangers.
As people say life is a circle, it now turns around again and the strangers who had become your friends become strangers once again. That's how it is. You might still be friends since you are still holding on to the phrase "Friends Forever" but the closeness, either you realize it or not, has diminished. It just happen. It's normal. Nobody should be blamed.
and that is why i refuse to weep over it because i have a life to catch up with and a future to create. i am not saying that i want to forget all my old friends. no way, they are so important to me. i am just saying that it is ok to reminisce some sweet memories because it will put a smile onto your lips. But hoping the memories to become a real thing once again is pointless. Memories only belong to the past. and the past will remain in the past.
Labels: relationship, Thoughts
